Debating the existence of God
I enjoy debating with people. I love to have conversations with my friends where we disagree, sometimes vehemently. But one thing I don’t like to debate is the existence of God.
I have no problem giving the reaons I don’t believe in God; the problem of evil, the lack of any evidence for or against such a creature, the fact that description of God and Gods are pretty clearly just human traits taken to a superlative extreme, etc. I have no problem explaining to myself and other people why I don’t believe in God.
The issue is that debating is inherently a persuasive form of communication. I can try to convince someone that LGBT people shouldn’t be oppressed. I can argue that the homeschool system in America desperately needs to be overhauled. I can even argue that universal healthcare doesn’t actually threaten one’s freedom. And I could convince someone of all those arguments. But I will never, ever, convince someone that God doesn’t exist.
The primary reason I won’t ever convince someone is that most people don’t believe in God because they’ve thought through all the logic of whether a deity exists or not. Most people believe in God because that’s what they’ve been taught. Trying to argue logically against something people have been taught literally from the cradle rarely works (for another example, see how hard it is to eliminate racism). Even I myself wasn’t simply convinced by someone else that God didn’t exist – I had to get there myself by looking at the evidence for myself.
Secondly, belief in God is related strongly to people’s core identity about themselves. It’s not just something that can be moved around easily. For example, I naturally have blonde hair. But having blond hair isn’t necessarily a core part of my identity, and I have no problem dying my hair a variety of color; and in fact, I do dye my hair, and continue to do so. I’m also right-handed, and if I lost my right hand, adjusting to being left-handed would be painful and frustrating. Right-handedness is a core part of who I am. The analogy isn’t exact, but imagine what it would take to convince you via an argument that you should cut off your right hand.
Finally, the fact of the matter is that the evidence for there being a god, and the evidence for there not being a god, are both incredibly circumstantial. In some cases, atheists and theists are using the exact same evidence.
So in general, I don’t like to debate the existence of God. Everyone gets worked up, nothing is accomplished, and for the most part, I just don’t do it. I’d much rather have conversations about how we treat each other than about the possibility that some sort of God exists.